Are you burdened by what you should be doing? Maybe it’s time to change your thinking.

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I should be… slimmer, smarter, more easy-going, relaxed and happy, or productive?” If you have, how has it made you feel when you don’t meet your expectations? Do you believe your children should be… obedient, honest, healthy, athletic, clever, progressing? How has it made you feel when they are…

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Confession: I am not the greatest model when it comes to driving!

I was running late…again. I could feel the stress rising inside of me. The internal acceleration of adrenalin was great; the temptation to just put my foot on the accelerator felt greater still. My shoulders rose to my ears and I was clutching the steering wheel, intent on getting to my destination as quickly as…

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The value of advice: arming yourself with knowledge.

When I was a new Mum staring out on the daunting journey of parenthood, I hungrily devoured any parenting books that were recommended by people who I respected. I was a novice in need of advice. From toilet training to tantrums; fussy eaters to shaping a strong-will; there was literature in abundance that promoted commonsense…

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Can you know happiness in hard times?

If you were asked to describe what happiness feels like to you, how would you describe it? Is it that wonderful moment of heightened joy when everything you’re experiencing is exciting and good; when your step is light and your buoyant mood moves you to dance or sing? Or is it a more settled, peaceful…

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“Well done you!”

I love the British phrase “Well done you!”. Whenever a friend said it to me, it felt like someone had given me a gentle pat on the back; a thumbs-up; an encouragement that I’d done a good job. Nothing flashy, no fanfare; just a simple acknowledgement that they’d noticed my effort. It brings a smile…

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Plan to Getaway

I was reminded this week of how thoroughly positive it is to plan a getaway. Whether it be a family holiday or time away just with your spouse, be it a weekend or a week; having something to look forward to is an effective antidote to the humdrum of everyday life. Sometimes the mundane can…

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A Thankful Heart

I’ve been in a battle of late; it’s been a battle against discouragement. It started with a setback; or more accurately, what I perceived to be a setback. For me, a setback always begins with reoccurring pain; back and neck pain to be precise. It’s a part of the backdrop to my life, and with…

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Don’t be surprised…be patient.

“Are you kidding me! How many times do we have to have this conversation? I thought I made it very clear when I said… I can’t believe we are still having this problem!” Does this sound like a conversation you have on a semi-regular basis with your kids? The utter frustration of having to revisit…

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Looking back, moving forward.

Over the past year I have been really challenged to consider the way I parent… teenagers will do that to you. What had once been a reliable and comfortable way of relating to my children, was now met with a prickly resistance. Their emergence into adolescence significantly changed my relationship with them, leaving me confused…

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